Friday, September 08, 2017

Five Minute Friday: WORK (for my son, who is 15 today)



I'm linking up again with Five Minute Friday, writing for five minutes on a given prompt. Today's word: WORK.

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Fifteen years ago today, at about 5:30 in the morning, I gave birth to Jonathan.

It was hard work.

I'd had a caesarean with Allison four years earlier but decided to try a normal delivery with our second. Jonathan was BIG --  nearly 9-1/2 pounds -- but I had a successful, hard-but-fast delivery with no meds other than a few puffs of laughing gas.

I was so proud of myself when I delivered him. It wasn't so much that I hadn't used meds: I have no judgment about that because every baby, every mother, every delivery is different and requires different approaches. But I felt as if giving birth to this big butterball was the hardest work I would ever do.




Fifteen years later, I realize that there are a lot harder things than giving birth to a large baby. One of them is parenting a boy who is on the autism spectrum, who has had seizures intermittently since 10 months of age, who is developmentally disabled. 

But I don't feel proud of myself anymore. I feel very, very humbled and inadequate and a little in awe of this now-fifteen-year-old who gets so excited about the simple things like the recycling truck and seagulls and clotheslines full of laundry, who is so funny and silly and so very exasperating. 

I guess I feel proud of him because he is so good at LIVING and never for one moment thinks that he's been shortchanged in any way. 

Happy birthday, Jonathan.





15 comments:

  1. Blessings come to us in all kinds of different packages. A big birthday hug to Jonathan.

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    1. Thanks, Sigga! XO I will pass on your wishes to the big-little dude.

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  2. Blessings! What a sweet gift - a hard, and difficult gift, but a sweet and beautiful one! Amen. (Your neighbor at FMF)

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    1. Thanks so much for reading and commenting, Sarah.

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  3. "he is so good at LIVING and never for one moment thinks that he's been shortchanged in any way" - that's a striking sentence - think I'll meditate on it today- thanks Jeannie

    Jeff P

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    1. Thanks so much, Jeff, for stopping by to read and for leaving that comment. Have a good weekend!

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  4. I'm with Jeff in being completely taken by this description: "he is so good at LIVING and never for one moment thinks that he's been shortchanged in any way."

    Tell Jonathan happy birthday from a guy in California who admires him greatly.

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    1. So nice, Tim - thank you. I bet Jonathan has no clue that he has so many admirers!

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  5. Happy Birthday Jonathan! I'll bet he teaches you daily. I'm in the 33 spot this week!

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    1. Thanks so much, Tara -- and you're right; he definitely does.

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  6. Jeannie, this is a delightful take on the prompt. I love the photos too! I hope his new job is wonderfully fulfilling.

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  7. Sorry, I misunderstood. Reread, and I mean to say, happy birthday to your son!

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    1. No problem Sarah! Thanks so much for coming by today. Have a good weekend.

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  8. Happy birthday, Jonathan! I AM proud of you, Jeannie. You are an amazing woman. :)

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    1. Well yes, I AM kind of a big deal. (Ha ha!)

      Thanks so much for your comment, Betsy - always happy to see you here.

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